Are you hooked on external validation?
I had a most inspiring virtual coffee this week with a new LinkedIn connection, and this phrase – “hooked on external validation” – came up in our conversation. Is this you? You constantly need something outside of yourself (e.g. other people, size of email list, number of social media followers)
Who are you comparing yourself to?
Only compare your efforts today with your efforts yesterday. Not the efforts of other people. We tend to place more importance on how and what others are doing. We come up with stories about why they are doing well and we’re not. We forget that we are all starting from
“Fear is a constant visitor on this unknown path, as my old world views drop away, and I learn to trust that life has my back. For me, it has become about taking a continued risk and being comfortable with not knowing what will happen next.” – Daniel Solodky The
It’s been an extroverting sort of week. Yesterday, I interviewed a guest for The Quiet Warrior Podcast. That took one hour, longer than expected. Interviewing takes a lot out of me – there’s the mental focus (checking off things in my head, looking at my notes to make sure I’ve
Why Life Coaching Doesn’t Work For Me
Everything I’ve done, learned, researched and trained in in the personal development space over the past 12 years has its source in me trying to find answers that make sense for me, about me. I WANT TO KNOW… Why any talk about my childhood, relationship with my parents, and being
The tensionless life is a myth
I like to carry a book with me always, so I can have something to do (other than scroll on my phone) while waiting at the train station or at the GP’s. The passage I have quoted comes from Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search For Meaning, his account of what gave
In this parenting blog post, Ryan Holliday shares 15 questions to help us be better parents and humans. The one that caught my eye and made me reflect the most: “Will I be an Ancestor or a Ghost?” Bruce Springsteen explained the concepts in his Broadway show Long Time Comin’,
Is perfectionism stopping your growth?
As a budding entrepreneur, you wear numerous hats: CEO, CFO, CMO, sales manager etc. Being a quiet achiever and perfectionist with high standards, you are accustomed to doing everything conscientiously and to the best of your ability, and you hate the thought of embarking on something that could go terribly
Do you have trouble receiving?
Are you someone who lives by the maxim, “It is more blessed to give than to receive”? Do you see “giving sacrificially” and “giving till it hurts” as the highest form of giving, and something to be admired? When someone compliments you on something you did well, do you automatically
Most people live in one of two places: The past (dwelling on past achievements, or brooding over old regrets, hurts, and resentments). The future (what will happen if I lose my job, what if interest rates rise again and we can’t pay the mortgage, what is the world coming to).
